Sunday, May 2, 2010

The Lusty Month of May

I notice guys all year long, but when the weather turns warmer and many of them are sweating and taking off their shirts, I notice them even more.

True, it's been cold and rainy lately here in northern Utah, but still we've had some beautiful days in the last few weeks and more quintessential "perfect spring days" are certainly ahead. Years ago my reaction to the various colors and scents of spring was to try to shut down my emotions. I remember very deliberately trying not to stare, trying not to obsess, which made me even more obsessive.

Now I try to look at things more philosophically. Hey it's springtime. Flowers and trees bloom, dead grass revives, and both men and women spend more time outdoors, wearing less clothing the warmer it gets. It's just the way it is. Why not enjoy it? Sure there are lots of reasons to remain somewhat cautious: traffic accidents, other accidents. But within reason I don't think I need totally cut myself off from the many manifestations of spring.

What do you say? Are you also more likely to experience pon farr at this time of year? If so, how do you deal with it? Any advice for those of us who are also in the same boat?


  1. AHHH... Spring! And beautiful shirtless guys!

    I've never, ever, ever had this problem of pon farr that you suggest in this post. What are you talking about? :)

    I used to describe it like an eruption of a volcano bubbling up and on the verge of exploding from within. But, as I've come to terms that this is a natural and very normal reaction of mine to beautiful men, I've come to enjoy the eye-candy without getting all freaked out about it.

    Have a happy and lovely "lusty month of May" and enjoy!

  2. There's the key: It really is "natural and normal" for some of us and coming to terms does allow a much more mellow and accepting reaction. Thanks for your perspective.

  3. There was a time in the not too distant past when I would berate myself for noticing a good looking guy - I felt I had to repent of my unholy attractions.

    Now that I finally accept myself - I just enjoy the view. There's nothing wrong with doing a little window shopping now and then :)

    btw, here in my neck of the woods, when the temps near 100, I suspect the shedding of clothes (for both men and women) is a bit more pronounced than in your neck of the woods - yet another reason to live in the great state of Texas :)

  4. I still look. I think it is the only thing that has kept me sane.

    Also, I enjoyed both the "Star Trek" and the "Camelot" references.

  5. yes, I still look and enjoy and wish some hot guy would rip off my clothes and you know. :) I like your posts.

  6. Haha...

    I think it's fine to see some sexy guys. Just consider it as an eye-refresher. But remember, dont stare too long or somebody will notice ur "naughty" thoughts...