Tuesday, December 6, 2011
a moho haiku and a question about friendships
His smile brings me joy
A blessing of male
Throughout much of my life, I've been frustrated by the lack of reciprocity in many of my male relationships. I expected more than most straight men could authentically give and because of my own homophobia I was unwilling to explore opportunities for friendship with gay or bisexual men. Given this background I'm so grateful when there is reciprocity with a male friend.
Just before Thanksgiving, I felt inspired to make a simple thank you card and give it to one of my friends. Yesterday he reciprocated. Not with a card but with an early Christmas present. Maybe that's not reciprocal but it was a wonderful surprise. Now I'm smiling as I think about some modest but meaning present I can give to him.
I'm curious about the friendships you have with straight males. Do you seek out these friendships? And do you exchange gifts at Christmastime?